How self-compassionate are you?
Are your treating yourself as you would treat others? Would you speak to your friend, spouse, child, co-worker, or neighbor with the criticisms or judgments you lay on yourself?
How do you typically react to yourself?
What types of things do you typically judge and criticize yourself for (appearance, career, relationships, parenting, etc.)?
What type of language do you use with yourself when you notice some flaw or make a mistake (do you insult yourself, or do you take a more kind and understanding tone)?
When you are being highly self-critical, how does this make you feel inside?
When you notice something about yourself you don’t like, do you tend to feel cut off from others, or do you feel connected with your fellow humans who are also imperfect?
What are the consequences of being so hard on yourself? Does it make you more motivated and happy, or discouraged and depressed?
How do you think you would feel if you could truly love and accept yourself exactly as you are? Does this possibility scare you, give you hope, or both?
Now take a few minutes to try it. Try it on for size. What if you treated yourself the way you treat your daughter? Reassuring, kind, supportive, affirming, loving. Just for a minute try it! Now, practice this every day for one minute, longer if you can!
Be good to yourself this season (and beyond!)