My children tell me there are 11 days until Christmas according to the chocolate dispensing advent calender. I resist the urge to panic. Some years, I may have leaped into hyper-drive at the reminder, but this year, I am watching what I can and can not control. I can not control whether we get sick when I was planning on making gingerbread cookies, or what the weather is like on the day we decided to get our tree major rain storm), or whether my husband watches football all day on Sunday when I wanted to put up lights…
And then there are things about the holidays that I choose to let go of. Things I could try to control, but choose not to because it will add stress, and reduce my enjoyment of the season and my family. I could demand a certain style of tree, obsess about a theme for decorating it, fight with my three year old about touching ornaments, and insist that cookies are decorated just so. Or I could choose to let the children be children, decorate the tree with random ornaments, touch them and move them around, spill sprinkles all over the cookies, build their own gingerbread house and enjoy the whole scene without controlling it!
control [kənˈtrəʊl] vb
To command, direct, or rule- to control a country
To check, limit, curb, or regulate; restrain to control one’s emotions- to control a fire,
To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct.
To adjust to a requirement; regulate: controlled trading on the stock market; controls the flow of water.
To hold in restraint; check: struggled to control my temper.
Here are a few phrases defining the verb control, (from www.freedictionary.com). These offer a range of meanings and relationship to power.
Is your control freak taking over your holiday joy?