Dear Thriving Mamas,
Here are a few pointers from our teleseminar today “From Conflict to Growth”. Use these ideas as you approach your next attempt to resolve conflicts with your partner (or anyone for that matter).
- A conflict is more than just a disagreement. It is a situation in which one or both parties perceive a threat (whether or not the threat is real).
- Conflicts continue to fester when ignored. Because conflicts involve perceived threats to our well-being and survival, they stay with us until we face and resolve them.
- We respond to conflicts based on our perceptions of the situation, not necessarily to an objective review of the facts. Our perceptions are influenced by our life experiences, culture, values, and beliefs.
- Conflicts trigger strong emotions. If you aren’t comfortable with your emotions or able to manage them in times of stress, you won’t be able to resolve conflict successfully.
Conflicts are an opportunity for growth. When you’re able to resolve conflict effectively in a relationship, it builds trust. You feel more secure, knowing and experiencing that your relationship can and does survive challenges and disagreements.